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💔📿On Grief and Loss: In Life, Love & Transitions 💔📿

If there is one thing I know very well this lifetime, it is loss in life and love. Grief is a human emotion we will all go through as things fade into being and out of being in our lives.

Its something we learn to work with and honor, as it unveils its many petaled phases and petals. We're still very much in Mercury in Pisces energy (even though it is now Aries season), so Mercury in that placement asks us to process all of our feelings about endings and loss. Pisces represents the 12th sign of the zodiac, and it is where we feel deeply. We feel all the feelings of the energies 1-11 that have come before it (Aries to Aquarius).

💔 What in you needs to be honored and released? 💔

Even if that sentence alone triggers depth because you know this is a mighty topic for you, there is always something we can "chip away at". Often pain is not released overnight in one fell swoop, but in gradual successive freeing of emotional pressures and pains we feel.

Let's take a look at some of my tried and true spiritual recommendations for walking spiritually in the direction of healing and acceptance. (Please note I am not a licensed healthcare provider or grief counselor and these recommendations are from my own experiences and lessons learned while becoming a spiritual teacher.)

📿Work with the energy of Pluto📿

The planetary energy that governs death and rebirth is Pluto. While under the influence of this planet in transit or natal chart, you will be forced to confront themes around the "Death" card in the tarot in your life. What cycle needs to end? What is leaving your life? What wants to make room for the new?

With the long term transit of Pluto in Capricorn we have all been under, we have been witnessing the steady decline (in order to then rebuild) within corporate, government, and large traditional structures of society. Pluto is very slow moving and its influences occur in slow, methodical pulses over a long period of time. Think of it like an octopus swimming the dark depths of the ocean. It may be slow and calculating sometimes, but its also oddly powerful and destructive when it wants to be and not to be underestimated. Its the master of metamorphizing to change its shape and colors.

Where can you achieve mastery? Where can you expose your psychological wounds (often with the help and guidance of a spiritual practitioner or therapist)? This is what Pluto asks us to do.

📿Work with the energy of Neptune📿

Neptune is the planet that rules the oceans and all that is within God-like matter. Its both the subconscious and the conscious, the unity of all that is. Its where ALL feeling, all empathy, all oneness is felt and transmuted. Its a confusing and sensitive place, but also one that allows us to really link our manifestations to our feelings, and our physical reality to our emotional needs, wants, and desires.

You can also embrace more of Neptune by working with the water element and the heart chakra. Check out my recent blog post on Mercury transiting in Pisces for more on that.

You can work with both of these energies by becoming more aware of where their transiting spots are moving through in your own chart astrologically. What house are they in for you? What are they aspecting in your chart? This is important medicine to pay attention to. (Heads up: I do astrology readings professionally and can help you out with that!)

📿Give EFT a try📿

One really powerful emotional hygiene tool I have used for many years is EFT, also known as Emotional Freedom Technique. This powerful energy tool is simple and effective to implement, but best done with a certified practitioner to guide you and help with setup statements, tapping sequences and more. I love Brad Yates and you can check out his amazing YouTube here.

EFT works by helping reduce the cortisol (stress) levels in your body as you recall emotions and feelings. It is sometimes known as "acupuncture without the needles" because it lets you move energy through the body that is trapped in chakras and tissues, yet it is non-invasive as it is done using your fingers to tap on specific acupressure points in the body.

Its a wonderful tool and one that is helped me heal so much. It is not a one quick fix, but requires regular application and practice just like spiritual exercise or healthy eating would. Check it out!

📿Create an ancestral altar📿

Something important to remember about crossed over loved ones is that they are still very much with us, just not in physical form. It can be really important to bring in tokens of memories of them into a sacred space here in the 3D world so you remember to still call on them for help, invite in their energy in prayer, guidance, and peace. I have pictures of crossed over loved ones and pets as part of a space on my prosperity altar along with specific tokens that have meaning related to them. You can make this as simple or as elaborate as you like. The important thing is that it is there, and it reminds you they are here with you, and they very much still care.

📿Know your Moon sign📿

Another really powerful practice to self-soothe and witness your feelings is to fully understand your natal moon sign in your birth chart. The moon is related to mothering, and understanding our moon sign -- by house and sign -- is where we can feel safe, comfortable, and free to express our feelings once more. For example, my moon is in Libra in the 12th house, so music, arts, beauty, union with pets, nature, and animals and harmonious aesthetics really comfort me. Particularly because my moon is in the 12th house - a Neptunian / Pisces ruled house - I have a super empath quality. Music, movies, and animals can help me tap into parts of my emotions and feelings I often need to confront and bring me back to a place of harmony, peace, and love.

I've recently fallen in love with this YouTube channel that is short musical bits with the sweetest doggo watching along and it is pure heaven on Earth. I was watching the video clip below and was moved to tears with the analogy that came to my mind. As each strand of the harp is plucked, its forced to change, vibrate, and move into new shapes and patterns that correlate to its note. Often, we go about life thinking we have to stay a straight line. But life doesn't work that way. We often get "plucked" unexpectedly, and when we can learn to turn those moments into a new note to ring out true in the world, that is where true alchemy and beauty reside.

📿Allow space for the tears📿

Sometimes a good "cry purge" can help us really move through compounded feelings. Using the power of what supports your moon sign, find ways to let yourself tap into your feelings in a controlled environment. Maybe its in therapy, or in listening to a sad song, in journaling, or sitting before your ancestral altar. Explore different ways and really get to know yourself emotionally, inside and out. What helps you to release and cry? What doesn't? Know thyself and you will heal thyself!

No matter what you decide to do, one thing I have learned is that emotional healing work takes courage. So whether you can do 1 thing or 3, give yourself a pat on the back. All of this is part of you becoming more awakened to all the parts of you, and the more you allow yourself to feel and heal the more magnanimous you become.

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Julie Ann Fae is a Professional Astrologer and Certified Angel Card Reader. She weaves together the magic of the moon, stars, and planets with fairy flair. She uses oracle cards and astrology to enliven, enlighten and inspire others. Check out more on this blog and visit her offerings at

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